In the NFL, there’s something called the “coach’s challenge” in which either coach can challenge the call made by the referees on the field. Was it really a fumble? Were both feet in bounds on that catch?
Why is that important? There’s so much activity out on the field that there’s no way that refs can be 100% right. There’s no way they can make every call accurately.
And in my own life, neither can I. Neither can you.
That’s part of why we need community. When it comes to Sticky Faith, we as parents desperately need others who can walk alongside us, and help us see our families and ourselves more accurately.
One of my favorite parts of doing the Sticky Faith Parent DVD Curriculum was the chance to interview amazing families. In the curriculum, we feature Marcie. Marcie tells a story of being in close relationship with other moms—so close that she also got to know their kids.
As one of the moms might confide a concern they had with their daughter, Marcie was close enough to that other mom to either confirm, or challenge, that mom’s perception. She could either say, “I think you might be right about that,” or “You have nothing to worry about.”
Personally, I would be lost without friends who know me and know my kids. Just this past weekend I called a friend to get her advice about how I was handling something with my daughter.
Do you have those types of relationships? If so, can you be more intentional and explicit in saying that you want to have that sort of commitment to each other? If you don’t have those types of relationships, who would you like to get closer to this year in hopes that that sort of community can bloom?